last year Ali A. sold more new business than any other salesperson or office ~ so I enjoy referring to her as "salesperson of the world". And, I know that Ali is an outstanding mom as well as being a high achiever outside of her home. Wouldn't it be great for women to receive more
encouragement and recognition as moms? Although I know we appreciate the implicit rewards of motherhood, an occasional bonus check or an awards ceremony with a meal cooked by someone else (and no dishes to clean) would be ... nice. Until these gestures become new family traditions and then social norms (be patient!), we can still find ways to encourage and recognize each other today. How? Some simple ways to recognize and encourage each other include listening to the stories of the women who surround us, offering words of support and sharing our own stories. Since part of my mission is to give moms a public voice and to develop understanding among women who are living similar and different life circumstances, I asked Ali for a "message to moms" based on her perspective of the life she is currently living.
Here is what Ali wrote ... in her own words:
I always picture myself wearing 2 distinct hats. The domestic (taking care of household, kids, husband) hat and the professional/career hat. I remind myself that if you are wearing two hats at once you look really silly and accomplish nothing well. But if you take the time to separate the times you wear each hat, you can wear them proudly and be successful.
I make conscience decisions daily, weekly and sometimes monthly about which hat I am wearing and when. And to help with the guilt when I wear the professional hat more...I remind myself that I am even doing that part for the kids. There is the obvious that the paycheck is a great benefit to the kids and family as a whole but also by demonstrating a strong work ethic, showing them that I can be successful in my career, I teach them such important values they will use as they grow. I also get to look forward to summer when I can spend extra time with them! They know I work hard because I love them and want to take care of them and I know that is 100% the truth. It is what drives me.
I was still in high school when I was working as a nanny. The children's father told me I was going to be a great mother, I asked how he knew that and his answer was so simple, "all you have to do is love them and you are so good at that." When I have a tough day I hear those words..."all you have to do is love them"
Thank you, Ali, Mom & Salesperson of the World, for sharing your perspective and encouragement ~
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